Please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of Ms. Ahem.  I can only imagine the pain you all are experiencing right now.  Proverbs 17: 17 say that “A true companion is  loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress.” In view of that scripture, one of the things that can help is talking about your loved one to family and trusted friends. No doubt this can bring much relief. In fact, many have found that talking help relieve the pain.
Remember Job who suffered the loss of all ten of his children and endured other tragedies. He said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” Please note that Job needed to “give vent” to his concerns, and did so by speaking.  I’m sure if you do the same, you will find some relief.
     Also, the encourage us to “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:8) One of the principal ways to draw close to God is through prayer. Do not underestimate its value! The Bible makes this comforting promise: “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18) It also assures us: “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22) Think about this. As noted earlier, many have found it helpful to talk about their feelings with a trusted friend.  So In harmony with 2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17  which says, “Moreover, may our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and gave everlasting comfort and good hope by means of undeserved kindness,  comfort YOUR hearts and make YOU firm in every good deed and word. So it would be more helpful to pour out your feelings to Jehovah who promises to comfort our hearts.  I hope that you will find these scriptural thoughts encouraging and beneficial.