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Melissa J. “Missy” Ruhl, 50

June 21, 2020

Melissa J. “Missy” Ruhl, 50, of Lititz, passed away suddenly at her home with her family by her side on June 21, 2020. Born in Lancaster, she was the daughter of Michael V. and Emily L. Toth and the beloved wife of Randy L. Ruhl.

Missy was a loving wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, and sister. Her life revolved around being a “Mimi” to her three grandchildren. She was a die-hard Yankees fan, a lover of crafts and rock and roll music. Missy had an enthusiasm for life and for her family that was unmatched.

She will be missed by her husband of 29 years, Randy Ruhl, her daughters; Laura Shaub and Lindsay Ruhl, her grandchildren; Mason and Isabella Shaub and Rylie Batz, her parents; Emily and Mike Toth, her sisters; Tracy Toth and Mary Snyder, and her nephews Tyler and Christopher Wentzel. She is also survived by a sister-in-law, Julie Ruhl-Clouser, and her children.

Guests will be welcomed to pay their respects on Friday, June 26, 2020 from 5:00-7:00pm at Charles F. Snyder Jr. Funeral Home & Crematory, 3110 Lititz Pike, Lititz PA. All services and interment will be private. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations can be made to the Lupus Foundation of Pennsylvania at 5405 Jonestown Road, Suite 102, Harrisburg, PA 17112 or to the Arthritis Foundation at 204 Butler Ave, Ste 102, Lancaster, PA 17601.

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June 26, 2020

I was so shocked and saddened to hear about the passing of Missy.  I have so many, many fond memories of all of the fun times we had, being her maid of honor at her wedding, my daughter was the flower girl.  Her family is the best, we had so many laughs with her mom, dad, uncles and Randy…what can I say about Randy, she was the love of his life and I cannot imagine how lost he feels right now.  I love you all and even though Missy & I lost touch over the years, she was always in my thoughts and will forever be in my heart as will Randy and the girls.  Please know you are all in my thoughts as you grieve the loss of one very special lady…she will be missed by so many.
Jolene (Jody) Hubbs Horner

June 25, 2020

Emily, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for you and the entire family
Fran Ewell

June 24, 2020

I am so very sorry for the loss of Missy. She was a good friend since grade school. My condolences to her family. 
Michelle Hostetter

June 24, 2020

This was very sad news for me! My heart aches for Randy and Missy’s Family. I grew up with Missy and have a lot of great memories to cherish. I’ll never forget when we went to the Monsters of Rock Concert in Philadelphia and got stranded and my Dad had to pick us up. Or when I slid across the road and skinned up my knee and Missy’s Dad had to doctor it up, I still have the scar. I remember when Missy met Randy and it was love at first sight. So many great times to remember and hold on to! I’m glad we stayed in touch through the years! Sorry we’ll miss camping together as we talked about. My heart goes out to Randy, Mike, Emily, Tracy and Family. Rest in Peace my friend, you’ll truly be missed! Your all in my thoughts and prayers. With love!
Renee Rieser Zimmerman

June 24, 2020

I just heard about this! I’m so very sorry for you all. This is just so sad. I know there will be a large part missing from your family that can’t be filled. Eventually the memories, stories and love you all share about Missy will bring a smile to your face and a warmth in your heart. My thoughts are with you all. 
Deepest sympathy,
Marie Sanderson

June 24, 2020

So very sorry to hear of the loss of Missy.  We played softball many years ago together.  Seems like it was just yesterday.  Rest Easy Missy.  I know you will be greatly missed. Prayers and Condolances to all of her family.
Traci (Shank) Carter

June 24, 2020

I’m not even sure where to start. I’ve known Missy ever since our early teen years. If I wasn’t at her house she was at mine or we were all hanging together somewhere in Lititz. I knew that Missy was a forever friend the moment she met my family. It was always easy with that girl. My father years ago wasn’t always the easiest man to get along with but somehow Missy could joke around with him and make him laugh. I knew then that she would always be in my life. As we grew older we both went our separate ways but always stayed in touch through social media. My heart breaks that it wasn’t more. I’d always address her as my dear friend as she did to me. Thank you so much Missy for all the wonderful memories and for always being the amazing friend that you were. Rest In Peace my dear friend, until we meet again. To the family and Randy, my heart truly aches for your loss. You all are in my every thought and prayers. I love you Missy, my dear friend❤️
Kris moore

June 24, 2020

So very sorry to hear this, my condolences to the family. Rest easy Missy.
Bob Rieker

June 24, 2020

To the Ruhl and Toth families; my heart breaks for you all. Missy was like my little pain in the butt sisters back in the day however life sent us on two different paths. Randy, thank you for being her protector through your years together! I lost my wife of 26 years on March 9th of this year to cancer, so I sympathize with your loss. I pray for healing and peace in the coming months! 
Tom Van Marter

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Friday, June 26, 2020
5:00 PM - 7:00 PM
Charles F. Snyder Funeral Home & Crematory
3110 Lititz Pike
Lititz, PA 17543
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