Joseph E. Gray, Jr., 97

November 07, 2021

Joseph Evans Gray, Jr., 97, of Lititz, passed away peacefully, Sunday, November 7, 2021. Born in Lancaster, he was the son of the late Joseph and Alice (Girvin) Gray. He was the loving husband of the late Betty J. Gray, with whom he shared 69 wonderful years of marriage.

Joe was a faithful Roman Catholic, who was, at times, a member of St. Anne and St. John Neumann parishes in Lancaster and St. James in Lititz. A Fourth Degree Knight, he was a member of the Knights of Columbus, Father Daley Council 4191, Ephrata.

Joe served in the U.S. Army in World War II from February 1943 to March 1946. He was a Drill Seargent at the age of 19. He then went on to Surgery Technician School and spent over a year as a Technician, 3rd Grade in the 117th General Hospital, mostly in England.

After his military service, he was employed by Penn Dairies, Inc. as a Sales Manager until his retirement at age 62. After several years retirement he embarked on a second career as a part-time employee at the Pennsylvania Dutch Convention and Visitors Bureau, where he was the “Joe” in their very popular “Have a Cup of Joe with Joe” promotion. He truly believed there were no strangers, only friends he never met. He enjoyed hunting, fishing, golf, and traveling with Betty. For many years they organized tours for the St. Anne/St. John Neumann Seniors Club, which allowed them to travel throughout the United States and a very special trip to France.

Joe is survived by his son, Douglas Gray, husband of Jane, of Hummelstown, and five nieces. Joe is preceded in death by his wife, Betty, his parents, his brother, William and his sisters, Sara McCullough, Helen Gigl, and Mary (Midge) Webb.

Family and friends will be received from 6PM until 8PM, Friday, November 12, 2021, at Charles F. Snyder Funeral Home & Crematory, 3110 Lititz Pike, Lititz, PA 17543. The Holy Rosary will be prayed at 7:45PM. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 10:30AM, Saturday, November 13, 2021, at St. James Catholic Church, 505 Woodcrest Ave., Lititz, PA 17543. Joe will be laid to rest alongside his wife, Betty, at St. Joseph New Catholic Cemetery, Lancaster.

There will be a time of gathering to celebrate and remember the lives of both Joe and Betty, at St. James Catholic Church, immediately following the interment. In lieu of flowers, contributions in Joe’s memory may be made to Masonic Village Hospice, 98 Masonic Dr., Suite 101, Elizabethtown, PA 17022; Luther Care Benevolent Fund, 600 E. Main St., Lititz, PA 17543; or to Lancaster Catholic High School, 650 Juliette Ave., Lancaster, PA 17601.

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November 17, 2021

Dear Doug,
I was saddened to hear of Joe’s passing. He was a very special man-an inspiration to me. I will always cherish the visits he made to the office. It was an honor and a pleasure caring for his vision needs over the years. I looked forward to his visits because he always had a smile. He was so kind and compassionate as well as inquisitive. We had many heart to heart conversations about travel, history, and life. He reminded me of my Dad and that is the very best compliment that I can bestow. He will be remembered. My sincere condolences. May you find peace in your memories.
Cathy Rommel

November 13, 2021

Joe was one of the nicest, kindest, gentlemen in his workplace and in his personal life.  He and his wife Betty extended friendship and hospitality in every direction.  They will be remembered with warm affection by all who knew them.  We are among those people.  

November 12, 2021

Dear Doug,  I am so sorry to read of your dad’s passing.  He was a very good friend of my dad from back in the days of the Buchanan Luncheonette.  In fact, he was my Godfather.  One birthday, he wrote me a letter telling me of some of the fun times with my dad and also told me how proud he would be of me.  It meant so much.  I’m out of town and not able to attend his service.  Please accept my sincere condolences.   Peace, Terrie Johnson Finger

November 11, 2021

Dear Doug, I just read about your dad, I am so sorry for your loss. As you know, I was close to your parents & kept in contact with them. I am so glad I was able to visit them before your mom passed. I had spoken to your Dad a few months back & he missed your mom so much. They were always together and shared a wonderful long life. They were special to me. We shared many laughs together. I loved them dearly. I know that you & Jane have fond memories!
Patty Sabatine 

November 10, 2021

Doug, just read your dad’s obituary in the paper. He sounds like he was a man who knew how to live life. Sorry for your loss and our thoughts are with you and Jane.
Bot and Joanne Roda

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Lititz, PA 17543
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